Roanoke Times
Copyright (c) 1995, Landmark Communications, Inc.
DATE: SATURDAY, October 16, 1993 TAG: 9310190126
SECTION: EXTRA PAGE: B7 EDITION: METRO
SOURCE: Reviewed by LYNN ERWIN
DATELINE: LENGTH: Medium
\ This basic book on sexuality is a useful overview for kids ages 9 and up. And overview it is. In this slim volume, Dr. Ruth covers every topic imaginable, from physical changes to emotional feelings to boy-girl relationships to where babies come from to AIDS to birth control.
Written simply and with numerous illustrations, the book cuts to the chase about subjects many parents want to introduce to their children but might not know how to approach. Some parents may still be resorting to that old, "just don't do it until you're married" routine.
But do what? Get acne, your period, or a beard? Have a crush on the girl in homeroom? Hate the boy next door one day and be crazy in love the next? As Dr. Ruth points out, sexuality is much more than the act of sex. Mostly it has to do with growing up and getting in tune with those changes.
With Dr. Ruth's close connection to television and radio, look for this book to get extensive coverage. But do be aware that there are numerous titles on the market which are better, or approach sexuality in ways more suited to other standards.
Parents have a vast assortment of views to choose from including "Raising a Child Conservatively in a Sexually Permissive World" by Sol Gordon (Simon and Schuster, 1989), "How To Talk to your Child about Sexuality," by Planned Parenthood (Doubleday, 1986), "The Catholic Sex Manual for Teenagers" by Benedict De Vita (Catholic Art Society, 1989) and "Asking Yourself about Sex and Growing Up" by Joanna Cole (Morrow, 1988).
As with any book on an important subject, parents should read it first then pass it along to their child. But remember to keep an open mind. What you may feel uncomfortable talking about may be just the topic your child is troubled or curious about.
An added note, and probably to the relief of most parents, Dr. Ruth emphasizes that abstinence is the only way to avoid pregnancy and AIDS. And again and again, she encourages kids to talk to trusted adults and above all, to respect others.
This one is especially recommended for pre-adolescent boys who seem to be the last group to find the facts and use them wisely.
Now, if all this talk about Dr. Ruth sets you on edge, turn to Babette Cole's hilarious "Mommy Laid an Egg, or Where Do Babies Come From?" (Chronicle Press, 1993). After hearing about the cabbage patch and the stork and other grown-up-like tales, two children explain to their parents where babies really do come from. It's a little offbeat but all in fun.
\ Lynn Erwin is a librarian at Hollins College.
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